shyammonk

we know. we know what should go, how we should feel. but we don't.

we know we are disqualifying the negative, but still can't feel one's realistic capabilities, the peace of being enough as oneself.

the thoughts. those in words. they do have a lot effect. they are the handle as well, to the slippery innards.

i have no idea what these layers are. i wouldn't bother too much, they are better presented as by products while we live our life.

language does seem to have the effect, statements in mother tongue or second language has immediate effect of tension or release on my breath or stomach.

oh, how much i thought language was to be shunned – all the experiments with beyond lingual.

correcting vs relevant positive statements

took me some time to realize the difference between the two.

it is about what you focus on.

correcting, solving – this is what all of us anxious have been doing all the while, nothing new – a very practiced act. in fact the cognitive distortion of 'should statements' and being harsh with oneself is found as accessories in the correcting method.

correcting is also about solving locally. it gets you more and more tangled in the mire of reasoning without the global aim in vision. solving, yes, but practicing the same old worry and desperation habit where you also assert how unworthy you are.

habit matters. it is most often just a separation from the worry habit that we wish for. just a moment of break where one is no more bothered. local solving may not help us with this.

set your positive statements. where you want to be, how you want to feel.

also, correcting is sort of third party – a passive thing – as if there is life for the mind and you are an observer. while statements – deciding what you need and not – one is alive.

'to remember that oh, i am the one who is alive now – that is akin to enlightenment' told the zen master once while walking back in the evening when the sky was orange. it felt like mother and i slept on the sky.

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